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因為都沒有人找我拍照導致空閒的時間太多，我決定開始加強英文
因此開始找些直覺應該會很簡單的外文文章來翻譯
現在這篇是來自Lifehack
它有很多中二生關於改善生活的建議
最喜歡的標題是：ＸＸ件你必須ＸＸＸ的ＸＸＸ
以為算是簡單的文章，結果我還是花了約兩個小時，而且還是有句子完全不懂意思。
或者看得懂，但翻成中文就不知所云。
我想我還是多多練習吧。希望可以至少兩天一篇。
這篇要說的是「真愛」，要如何得到真愛。

1. True love is not about finding yourself in another.
真愛不是要在另一人身上尋找自我

Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity is not to be someone’s other half‒it’s to be yourself! Don’t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to, and interested in, your partner.

不要因為迷失自己，就讓自己陷入戀情或單戀。你的獨特性不是因為你是別人的另一半，而是因為你能做自己！不要太投入於和你的另一半同化。你不需要成為他喜愛品牌的頭號粉絲，或是讀遍他讀過的書。保持你的興趣和嗜好，你將會讓自己更令人感興趣，也讓你更對自己的另一半感興趣。

2. Self love is the best way to find true love.
自愛是尋找真愛最好的方法

It sounds like a cliche, something your mom and girlfriends told you every time you were crying over a broken heart, but it’s true‒you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Be comfortable with yourself, even when you’re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life. Being in love with yourself and having your life on track are not only incredibly self-satisfying, they’re really attractive qualities to a partner.
這句話可能當你心碎哭泣時你媽或你的女性朋友常常會說，聽起來有點陳腔濫調，但卻是真切無誤。你必須在能愛任何人以前先愛你自己。自在一點，即便今天過得跌跌撞撞。了解真正的自己，潛藏深處的自己，了解此生真正想要的是什麼。愛自己並讓自己的人生不上軌道不會只是滿足自己，這些特質對你的另一半更具魅力。

3. True love is not demanding.
真愛不是需索無度

Your partner should never ask you to change if you’re truly loved. And if you truly love your partner, you shouldn’t expect him to change. You got into a relationship because you liked each other, and you grew to love each other as you are. Why would you need to change someone you love so deeply? Accept them as they are, and you’ll get that consideration in return.

若你們真心相愛，妳的伴侶不應該要求妳改變。反之亦然，你若真心愛他，也不該期待他改變。你們會陷入熱戀是因為你們喜歡彼此，而後愛苗逐漸茁壯，你們相愛是因為你們就是這個樣子。為什麼妳要強迫妳深愛的人改變？接受這一切，而對方也會用體諒回報妳。

4. True love allows you to be yourself.
真愛讓妳做自己

Being yourself in front of your partner can seem scary at first. Waking up without any makeup on, and your hair a mess? What about him seeing you when you’re sick‒runny nose, bloodshot eyes and all. It’s something you want to avoid as long as you can. But you shouldn’t feel that way. When you’re in love, even the worst illness is a beautiful experience because it’s worth it. Your partner helping you through a messy episode or kissing you with morning breath is a major step towards your future, and it shows how much he truly loves you.
在自己的伴侶面前坦誠自我起初可能令人怯步。例如起床醒來的素顏，加上一頭亂髮的邋遢樣？如果被他看見妳生病了？流鼻水，血絲眼等平常你不想讓任何人看見的模樣。這些都是你想要盡可能避免的。但妳不應該這樣想。當妳戀愛中，即便是最糟的病樣也是美麗的體驗，因為妳值得。妳的伴侶幫你渡過一團亂的小插曲或在早晨吻醒妳，都是兩人面對未來的踏腳石。而這也顯示他有多愛妳。

5. True love comes naturally.
真愛來的自然

Do you have doubts about your partner? Are you not sure they’re right for you? If you’re asking yourself too many questions about your partner, your relationship, and your future together, then you’re probably not in love. When you’re truly in love, you don’t question anything. It feels natural to be with your partner, and you know you can work through anything to achieve that future you’re dreaming of.
妳曾懷疑過妳的伴侶嗎？快找徵信社 妳不確定他就是對的人嗎？如果妳對自己的伴侶、妳們的愛情關係、和妳們的未來有太多質疑，那麼妳就可能不是真的愛。當妳真的愛時，妳不會有任何質疑。和妳的伴侶相處是很輕鬆自然的，而妳知道妳能克服一切走向妳夢想的未來。

6. To get love, you must give love.
要獲得必先有付出

You can’t be in a loving relationship if you hold back. You can’t use love as a bargaining chip. Don’t tell your partner you love him only when he does something good around the house. Don’t give him the cold shoulder if he makes a mistake. You have to love him all the time, regardless of his words or actions, because true love is unconditional. If you give your partner this much love, you’ll get it‒and more!‒in return.
妳不可能在有所保留的狀況下維持愛情。妳不能將愛當作籌碼。也不能等伴侶幫你整修房子妳才說好愛她。不要在他犯錯時又對他很冷漠。妳必須無時無刻很愛他，不要太在意他的言語或行為，因為真愛是無條件的。如果妳能給伴侶這樣濃的愛，妳將得到相應的回報甚至更多。

7. True love is based on friendship.
真愛奠基於友情

So many TV show relationships are based on friends who fall in love over time. It’s a great premise, and a nice daydream, but life isn’t TV. You don’t need to be best friends with your partner since kindergarten for love to last. But you need to be friends with your partner. You need to be able to talk, to share jokes, and to enjoy each others’ company. Over time, the physical passion may fade, but true friendship will last forever.
長久以來，如此多的電視劇劇情，戀愛關係都是建立在友情上。這是很棒的假設，很好的白日夢，但真實生活終究不是電視劇。妳不需要換你的伴侶從小就是青梅竹馬，直到天長地久。但你仍然必須要和妳的伴侶當朋友。妳必須能聊，分享玩笑，也能和雙方的朋友相處愉快。時間流逝，愛情的熱度會衰減，但是真實的友誼長存。

8. True love lasts.
真愛永存

Think back to those casual relationships where your significant other wiping his nose on your bath towel was enough to end it. Those relationships are immature, and whatever you thought you experienced wasn’t love. When you’re truly in love, problems like this are just small bumps in the road. No problem seems insurmountable. You’re more than willing to work through anything, just to stay together.
回想那些日常的互動，用浴巾擦擦鼻頭就能抹去的回憶。
這些是幼稚的，不論如何妳認為妳經歷的，不是愛情。當妳真正陷入真愛，像這樣的問題不過如同路上的小顛簸。沒有問題不能克服的。妳會更願意為了在一起而做任何事。

9. True love is committed.
真愛是種承諾

It’s human nature to be attracted to other people, to allow your head to be turned by an attractive passerby. Don’t let this make you feel guilty. As long as you’re committed to your partner, your relationship is fine. When you’re truly in love, you don’t want to be with anyone else. You can’t imagine spending your time without your sweetheart.
被別人吸引是人的天性，讓妳轉向注意有魅力的過路人。別讓這讓你覺得愧疚。因為妳曾對伴侶承諾，妳們的關係沒有問題。當妳真正愛時，妳不會再想和其他人共處。妳無法想像不能和心上人共度的時光。

10. YOU are the love of your life.
妳就是妳生命中的愛

Don’t forget that you need to love yourself. Self love is important, but it’s not something you should achieve and then throw away once you’re with your partner. You must stay in love with yourself for your entire life. If you start to dislike yourself or what you’re doing, you need to change just enough to stay on track, to stay true to yourself, and to stay in love with yourself.
別忘記要愛妳自己。自愛很重要，但這不是說你達成後，然後當妳和另一半在一起時就拋在腦後。妳必須一生都保持自愛。如果妳開始討厭自己，或討厭妳自己的作為，妳必須有所改變直到回復正軌，保持真自我，並永遠記得愛妳自己。